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Why I Chose Sobriety: A Journey of Growth, Connection, and Self-Discovery

Writer: Kesia BurdettKesia Burdett


Six months ago, I made a decision that has profoundly changed my life: I chose to get sober. This wasn’t about hitting rock bottom or battling addiction. Rather, it was about realising that my relationship with alcohol—something that had become a habit and, eventually, a dependency—was holding me back from living the life I truly wanted. Today, I want to share why I decided to step away from alcohol, not because it was destroying my life, but because I knew I deserved more.


The Quiet Dependence: When Drinking Becomes Routine


In today’s world, drinking is so often seen as the norm—woven into the fabric of our social lives and daily routines. For me, alcohol wasn’t about getting drunk every night; it was just something I did. It was how I relaxed after a long day, how I socialised, and how I coped with the pressures of life. Over time, it became a habit that I didn’t question—a habit that slowly turned into a quiet dependency.


It wasn’t that I was blacking out or losing control; it was more subtle than that. But as I started to reflect on my life, I realised that alcohol was taking up space that could be filled with so much more. It was numbing my experiences, not in a dramatic way, but in a way that kept me from fully engaging with the world around me. I wasn’t living the vibrant, fulfilling life I knew I could be living.


The Turning Point: Choosing Clarity and Connection


The decision to get sober wasn’t made in a single moment; it was the result of a series of realisations that slowly built up over time. I started to see that alcohol, while once a way to unwind or socialise, was no longer serving me. Instead, it was holding me back from truly connecting with myself and others.


I wanted more out of life—more clarity, more meaningful connections, more time spent doing the things I love. I wanted to wake up with a clear mind, to remember every conversation, to be fully present in my interactions. I wanted to build relationships that were based on genuine connection, not just shared drinks.


The Impact of Sobriety: Finding True Connection and Joy


Since becoming sober, my life has changed in ways I never could have imagined. I’ve made so many incredible and meaningful connections with people who genuinely care about me. These friendships are deeper, more authentic, and they add real value to my life. Without alcohol as a crutch, I’ve learned to connect with others in a way that’s honest and true to who I am.


1. Building Genuine Friendships


One of the most beautiful gifts of sobriety has been the friendships I’ve formed. These aren’t just drinking buddies; they’re people who truly see me, who support me, and who add positivity to my life. These relationships are built on trust, mutual respect, and shared interests—not just shared drinks. I’ve found that without alcohol in the picture, my interactions are more meaningful, and I’m able to be fully present with the people I care about.


2. Rediscovering Joy in Simple Things


Sobriety has also given me the time and mental clarity to rediscover the things I truly enjoy. Whether it’s reading a good book, going for a run, or simply enjoying a quiet evening with loved ones, I’ve learned to find joy in the simple moments. These activities bring me a sense of fulfilment that alcohol never could. I’m no longer chasing a temporary high; instead, I’m embracing the deeper, more lasting joy that comes from living a life aligned with my values.


3. Pursuing Long-Delayed Dreams


One of the most empowering aspects of my sobriety journey has been the way it’s allowed me to pursue the things I’ve always wanted to do but never made time for. Whether it’s taking up a new hobby, travelling to places I’ve always wanted to see, or simply spending more time with family and friends, I’ve started doing the things that truly matter to me. I’m no longer putting off my dreams; I’m actively making them a reality.


Breaking Free from the Habit: Embracing Growth and Fulfilment


Getting sober wasn’t about giving something up; it was about gaining something more. It was about recognising that my life could be fuller, richer, and more meaningful without alcohol. It was about stepping away from a habit that had quietly taken hold of me and choosing to embrace growth, connection, and fulfilment instead.


I realised that I didn’t need alcohol to socialise, to relax, or to have fun. What I needed was to be fully present in my life, to engage with the world around me with a clear mind and an open heart. And as I’ve embraced this new way of living, I’ve found that the rewards are far greater than anything a drink could offer.


Moving Forward: A Life of Clarity, Connection, and Purpose


As I look back on the past six months, I’m filled with a sense of pride and accomplishment. Sobriety has given me so much more than I ever expected—more clarity, more meaningful relationships, and more time to pursue the things that truly matter to me. I’m not saying it’s always easy, but it’s always worth it.


This journey isn’t about perfection; it’s about progress. It’s about choosing to live a life that’s true to who I am, a life that’s filled with purpose, connection, and joy. I’m excited to continue on this path, to keep growing, and to keep building the life I’ve always wanted.


Final Thoughts


Choosing sobriety wasn’t about losing something; it was about gaining everything. It was about stepping away from a habit that no longer served me and embracing a life that’s filled with clarity, connection, and purpose. The friendships I’ve made, the joys I’ve rediscovered, and the dreams I’m finally pursuing have all been made possible by this decision. If you’re considering a similar journey, know that it’s one of the most empowering choices you can make. Here’s to living a life that’s truly fulfilling, one day at a time.


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